“Become who you are” is actually Nietzsche’s directive, but I’ve made it my life’s theme — in both my work and my way of being.
It’s the perfect rallying cry for my heroines — women who strip away expectation, status, and fear until what’s left is the raw, radiant, authentic self. Become who you are isn’t just advice — it’s an invite to raise the stakes and fearlessly face whatever obstacles are thrown your way. I believe that this is what literature can offer: not just escape, but recognition. A reminder that claiming one’s full self — intellect, ambition, desire — is the most dangerous and divine thing a woman (or man) can do. But it always comes with challenges and risks.
Recently, I apologized to my ex-husband (still a dear friend) for quitting my high-paying job as an executive in the entertainment industry to pursue writing. “That was selfish of me,” I said. I’d felt guilty for years for suddenly depriving our family of a big chunk of income, just so I could follow my bliss. “No, Karen, it wasn’t selfish,” he replied. “It was brave.”
His words were a balm to my soul — an affirmation that following my path, becoming who I was destined to be, no matter how difficult or risky, was worth every moment of doubt, every reinvention, every late-night wrestling match with the blank page and the taunting voices in my head telling me that what I wanted to accomplish was impossible.
And so, dear reader, this is my wish for you: That you continue to become who you are. That you take whatever bold steps are necessary to evolve into the highest, truest version of yourself — even when the world resists, and even when it’s scary and lonely. Even when you might be feeling a little bit selfish for becoming the person you know yourself to be.
If you’re looking for a guide along the way — a woman who risked everything, loved deeply, ruled fiercely, and claimed her destiny with unapologetic power — may I humbly suggest Kleopatra. She’s the embodiment of this journey. And her story might just help illuminate yours.
Best wishes on your journey of becoming.
